7 Tips for an Awesome Wedding Toast

So, one of your closest friends has asked you to speak at their wedding! What a privilege, right?!

If you're like most people, you're already sweating at the thought of a your solo voice on the mic with a hundred pairs of eyes staring at you.

Well, fear not friend! You'll have people in tears and belly-laughing in no time with just a few key pointers:

All images in this guide are provided by the very talented Beca C Photography.


#1 | The toast is not about you

This is the my first suggestion because I see it the most often. Let's be honest, no one is here to celebrate what great friends you are with the bride. I'm sure you have an incredibly significant friendship, but this day is about the bride and groom's relationship to each other.

Sure, let us all know how you guys became friends, but keep the focus  on the bride and the groom. You are one of the closest observers of their relationship--so give us the inside scoop on it!

Ideas to inspire thoughts and stories:

  • What are your favorite attributes about the bride/groom?
    • Think of specific stories that reflect this quality
  • When did you first hear your friend talk about their significant other?
    • What were your thoughts/feelings?
  • What were your thoughts when you first met their significant other?
  • When did you realize they were right for each other?
  • Why are you excited they are getting married?


#2 | Stay away from inside jokes

Inside jokes are great, but public speaking ain't the time for it. Sure, the bride or groom will be cracking up, but you'll just hear crickets from everyone else.


#3 | Don't use jokes you found through Google

I might throw my camera across the room if I hear ONE more person tell the groom to put his hand on the bride's hand because it will be the last time he'll ever have the upper hand.



#4 | Tell Jokes! But Make sure there is a punch line

Roasts are GREAT. There is nothing better than a good tease, especially for guys (see below). But--just make sure there is a punchline. Every joke should culminate to a point when the audience realizes "Ah, this is now the time to laugh at what was just said."

Unless you want to laugh alone, that is.



# 5 | GIRLS--this is not the time to make fun of your sister

That just ain't classy. Sure your sister got a little crazy in Mexico and took a wrong turn in her college days--but now is not the time to bring up those wonderful memories. It just looks catty. And speaking of other guys…



#6| Don't bring up ex's

That's just awkward. For everyone.



 #7 |NEVER wing it

Always, always, plan what you will say.  Write it out, if not verbatim, then as bullet points. Practice till your comfortable. It will allow you to  feel confident in the jokes, the delivery, and you might even *gasp* enjoy it! 



#7 | Do without the uplighting

This one may be personal preference. But if I'm being honest, uplighting is the bane of my existence. Tones of harsh purple, pink, or yellow aren't exactly flattering on your skin during your first dance or the toasts. And unlike photographers, I can’t just opt to turn in black and white in the edit.

If you want a crazy party with all kinds of lights I’m game for that! Just save it for the party.

[Note: Certain, cheaper LED lights used also cause rolling stripes to appear when used with video. It's a long technical explanation, so I'll spare you the details. If this happens, I'll just kindly ask the DJ to dim them while I'm filming]



#8 | Attitude is everything

No matter how much you plan, just expect things to not go exactly as planned. Which is okay! A wedding day is still just one day; your relationship is what matters.

At the end of it all, you two will be joined forever. That's pretty amazing.

And as your videographer, I feel extremely honored to capture and be apart of such an incredible part of your story.